Neve E Hooper goes to hostable

Unfortunately. We’ve all had a 36-hour bug that the NHS (via the pandemic flu website) decided it would be appropriate to take Tamiflu for (we declined). Lola first, with a one-day fever of 39 and no other symptoms she could vocalise, followed by Isa on Wednesday, who added a sore throat and true-flu aches and pains, and your humble author the day after who threw a horrid headache into the mix.Neve Eleanor Hooper

Then, at about 2 am on Friday, Neve’s temperature started going up and she entered a three-hour crying spell after which she assumed a calmer, unusually torpid, mode and maintained a fever between 37.5 and 38. Which calm statement belies the fraught nature of the experience. Isa was extremely worried, especially with regard to the bulging fontanelle, which is potentially a sign of meningitis. We rang NHS Direct; they said we’ll call you back — give us eight hours. “Does that imply you think we need take no immediate action?” “Sorry, I can’t offer an opinion on that.”

Super. By now it was 5:30 and Neve, though still with a fever, seemed happier. We elected to extract some solace from this and the fact that the NHS Direct conversation hadn’t triggered any immediate “Take her to hospital!” response and wait until our local surgery opened so we could speak to the doctor there.

We rang the surgery when it opened, and the receptionist referred us to the NHS Pandemic Flu service, who referred us back to our GP, where the receptionist apologised for misdirecting us and said she’d talk to the doctor and get back to us. Meanwhile, an NHS Direct nurse rang back and recommended that, due to her being only 3 months old, we should take her to A&E.

Which we did and let the various helpful nurses triage her then send us up to the paediatric day ward where we saw a doctor who, essentially, gave Neve a thorough-looking examination and declared her to have no complications and recommended they kept an eye on her for a few hours.

So we hung out in a room off the day ward and they stuck a sign on the door saying we were infectious and left us alone. Four hours later, we decided we might as well monitor her at home as her temperature, though high, was under 38 and she seemed otherwise happy. The hospital was only five minutes away in the car, and it wasn’t like they had a close eye on her…

So I went to get the car and Isa told the nurses we were going to toddle off. That woke them up. Half an hour later and I’d parked the car again and was back in the day ward where a small but powerful vortex of outraged opinion had formed. A senior registrar had been called, Neve’s temperature had tickled the 38C trigger, and she was outraged that we would want to remove Neve from their care given the potential risks. Isa was outraged at the inconsistent messages we had been given and the woeful lack of communication between staff and patients, and staff and staff. Steely blades of will clashed; at climax, the registrar claimed that yes, actually, she *could* keep Neve against our will.

I backed up Isa’s outrage and then helped forge a compromise where we agreed to let them run blood tests on Neve to look for indicators of infection and that she (and Isa) would stay in overnight so Neve could be kept under observation. They reluctantly agreed *not* to pump Neve full of antibiotics (“but, if her temperature rises over 38C, we *will*”) or Tamifluâ„¢

If I’d been more with it, I’d have realised how utterly exhausted and frayed Isa was at this point and taken Neve to get the bloods done on my own. But I wasn’t, and the nurse’s various attempts to locate a point to insert a cannula while Neve cried were more than Isa could take and she walked off with Neve insisting that they were going home.

Well, when the shock dissipated, we agreed I’d go with Neve to do the blood. That done, Lola and I went to the Haelan Centre and then home to get some bits and pieces for Isa and Neve. Lola, I should mention, was fantastic all day, quite enjoying the hospital with its corridors, doors, siderooms, nurses, toys, books and the cafe. She was a bit less keen, once we’d returned to the hospital with an overnight bag, actually to leave her mother and sister for the night but a bit of discussion as to why they were staying and how we’d soon be back to see them in the morning and she left quite happily.

That night, after Lola was asleep, I sat up and read the NICE Guidelines for Feverish Illness in Children. I wish I’d done that earlier as it gave me a much better perspective on Neve’s symptoms and their appropriate management. I ended up glad she was being monitored in hospital but upset at the way Neve’s case was initially handled, at the poor communication (both inter-staff and between staff and parents), and at the lack of credence given to our own description of Neve’s symptoms (particualarly her high temperature).

Well, all’s well that ends well and Neve passed the night without incident and the registrar was happy to let her go in the afternoon. I think letting slip that I’d read the NICE guidelines helped convince her that we had some clue; as ever, it provoked the ‘who do you work for’ question.

As an addendum (yes, these paragraphs are getting shorter as I tire of writing this), the BMJ was in the news the next day for publishing a study that suggested that Tamifluâ„¢ should not be given to children. Which made us go, “Ha!”.

Tummy troubles, part 784

Neve continues to have tummy troubles and spends some considerable time
every day crying in pain, arching and tensing. Often there’s no way to
console her: it’s all about trying to hold her in the ‘correct’ position
and walking around until your back reciprocates with its own agonies.

When she does settle, almost invariably while being held, it’s
impossible to put her down — or even sit — without her waking and the
process starting all over.

She eats well and burps like her father but she’s not so fluent at the
other end, sometimes emitting nothing for days on end except for the
occasional fart. On Tuesday, she did her first poo since the previous
Thursday — I think that’s her record so far for anal reticence.

The amazing thing is that when she’s not hurting she’s a good-natured,
smiley, alert and engaging little girl.

B4391

P1010971 If you’re ever in North Wales and pondering a route home then, assuming
home is somewhere you might get to by first aiming vaguely at
Birmingham, don’t hesitate: take the B4391.

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Or, perhaps: don’t, as one of the things I liked about this road as we
drove down it on Monday was the utter lack of traffic. I don’t think we
encountered more than a dozen vehicles in an hour and a half’s driving.
What I liked most, though, was the sheer, raw beauty of the
landscape this route passes through. Running from Ffestiniog nearly all
the way to Shrewsbury (you take the B4393 for the last few miles, but it
takes up the mantle very well), the road starts in the P1020055
wild, bleak, craggy land of Snowdonia, and snakes down into the more
cultivated, hillock-strewn terrain of Shropshire. One minute tiny, winding,
and sheep-strewn, threatening to toss you down the sheer side of the
valley; the next looping at speed across a great marshy expanse with
glowering peaks in the distance.

Well, I don’t have the words to evoke it right now; or ever, perhaps. You can see the route here

lie-in

OMG — Lola let us lie in until 09:40. She woke at eight and I got her some rice milk and went back to bed and she played quietly for an hour and a half. What a fantastic girl! Meanwhile, Neve slept on, having fed fairly easily around 5am.

In less cheery news, we seem to have lost the summer — it’s raining this morning, as it did yesterday, and the temperature has dropped. Our lovely new patio furniture (courtesy of Tesco Extra, I’m slightly loathe not admit (not from snobbery, I just hate to buy from Tesco…)) is looking folorn in the rain.

Today, we have to go and buy a new buggy and a buggy board. Hopefully without spending very much money. Ha!

wah, heat

This weekend has seen the first real summer weather we’ve had. Proper clear skies and hot sun. And today was just sweltering.

Mum and Dad went home yesterday, having come up last Tuesday to cover the first week of my return to work. By a great stroke of fortune, Chriselia, Remco and Rosie were away on holiday and left us the keys to their flat, as we’d told them my parents might visit. It was fantastic having M&D here — it made the world of difference for Isa as they shared the load presented by the care of Lola and general running of the house; and it is always just fab to have my parents around.

A Spot of Wah

Hello. This post has nothing to do with its title, really, other than that there is a little wah emanating from the bedroom as I write. In fact, I may have to break off to intervene…

Which I did and am now back with a cheese, lettuce and mayonnaise sandwich. *drool* This is the second night in a row that we’ve put Neve and Lola to bed at the same time (19:30) and it’s working remarkably well. We are all sleeping in the same room, anyway, so Lola is already used to sleeping through Neve’s crying and feeding sessions.

It occurs to me to wonder how on earth I managed to do so much blogging when Lola was born — there certainly doesn’t seem to be a moment to sit down and write this time round. Largely, of course, because Lola is around to fill any and all gaps that might otherwise exist and leave us more exhausted even after they’ve both retired. Lola is doing really well, though: taking great care of her little sister and showing no signs of jealousy.

In other news, we are finally seeing evidence of summer, with the last couple of days in the early 20s and with largely blue skies.

Here ends this somewhat disjointed and, frankly, dull entry.

One week in

Neve celebrated her first week of life on Friday with a spot of lunch down at the World Cafe. That was the first time either Isa or Neve had been out of the house since their return from hospital last Sunday and it was a big deal for Isa who has been (and remains) very weak and easily exhausted. Liver, steak, spinach, apricots, orange juice, iron sulphate supplements, Spatone — the theme of the week has been getting iron into Isa’s system but the expected improvement is failing to materialise and Isa may opt for a transfusion.